This is already week 3 Dillon at school, and according to his class teacher, he is doing well and he enjoys school life very much. He can even sing me 2 Chinese New Year songs and it really made my day, I will find a chance to record it.

Tomorrow I will have to go to the market and buy the food stuff for Sunday, and yes I will be cooking the reunion dinner for the family, big task…!! If I have spare time, I would also like to go and do my hair and perhaps pedicure as well.

I will be off until 2nd Feb and might not be online to update the blog. So I’d like to wish all my blog visitors a very Happy and Prosperous Chinese New Year, have a wonderful holiday with your beloved ones.

Gong Xi Fa Cai !!

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Thanks to everyone who left me kind comments and ideas on how to help Dillon to adapt to the new school life. I took some of these advise and practice it on Sunday night.

Before bedtime, I told Dillon that tomorrow when mummy and daddy off to work, uncle will be coming to fetch him to school, and he will have a very good time at school with teacher and friends. I showed him the spare pants and underwear I packed in his bag, and told him if he didn’t wet his pants again, I will give him sweets. He nodded and say ok. I also put in some snacks and told him to ask teacher to open for him, and he has to share some with the friends, he seemed excited about it and say ok.

To my surprise, Dillon did very well on Monday morning, my maid told me that he didn’t cry anymore when going up the school van, instead he happily followed the aunty to the van, then wave and say bye bye to my maid. And the best thing is, he didn’t wet his pants and when I got home, he immediately ask for a sweet from me (well he never forget this….)

Same goes to the following days, but on Tuesday and Thursday, he still wet his pants once, which I think is pretty normal and acceptable, so long he doesn’t cry so much and start adapting to school life, that is good enough.

On Thursday I was on half day leave, so I went to Mayter to fetch Dillon, and also talk to the teachers. According to his class teacher, he is still sticking to her very much, always wanted her to hold his hands and be by his side, he didn’t cry much but occasionally when teacher out of his sight, he will cry……..The English teacher also told me the same, he only wanted to stick with class teacher and whenever Dillon see her, he’ll say he doesn’t want her, and ask her to leave the classroom (so no manners…..sigh). She also said his voice is very loud and is a chatterbox, haha. Anyway, teachers said things should improve as time goes so just give him few more weeks to adapt.

I also talk to the van driver and he said Dillon don’t cry anymore but he is too active and very chatty, uncle always have to watch him very closely. Uncle also said that Dillon will be sleeping on the way back (well the journey took about an hour plus and I’m sure he is too tired after school).

I’m very much relieved now that things has started to settled down and I have faith that in no time, Dillon will make a lot of new friends and learn many new things at school.

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Chinese New Year is coming soon and normally what I do most is eating and sleeping, what’s more relaxing than this? There are lots of delicious cookies and snacks and my favourite is butter cookies. I can already foresee that I will put on weight after the festive season and might need Lipovox to save me. This is a natural food to help in burning fat and I’m now reading on the Lipovox review before buying it.

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If you go to the pharmacy and look for fat burners, you’ll see at least over 50 different brands of fat burners and different types. Some are in pills form, some are packet drinks, or tea bags, and how do we know which one is the best fat burners? Of course we have to read the ingredients label carefully, ask the pharmacist if necessary, and try to find some customers review or testimonial before making any decision.

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In a recent body check up, my friend’s uncles has been diagnosed with Mesothelioma, a form of cancer caused by previous exposure to asbestos at his working environment. Cancer has become the no. 1 killer and the number of patients is increasing. We should have a balanced and healthy diet, try to maintain a healthy lifestyle and always stay happy to lower the risk of cancer.

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When a building experience power outage or in the event of fire, an emergency light will comes on automatically and it helps to guide people to evacuate from the building immediately. During emergency, people will get panic and it’s even worst during a total blackout and this might cause more injuries or death. Therefore emergency light should be installed in every building as a safety precaution and be well maintained.

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Recently we found that the aircond in the car has very poor cooling, suspected that it could be due to low refrigerent charge, clogged condenser or a bad ac compressor. We need to send the car to the mechanic by this weekend the latest to fix the problem. Next weekend is already Chinese New Year and I don not want my aircond fail on us when we drive back to hometown.

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I was spring cleaning my wardrobe last weekend and I found this dress, which I bought before I had my kids. When I tried it on, it’s so frustrating that I can barely zip it up, my tummy and my hip has become fatter and now I started to think of ways to lose some weight. Friends has recommended me Leptovox as they have tried it and think it works but I’m yet to check it out.

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In some of the buildings or lift, you will find that your cell phone doesn’t have reception, or very weak signals. This is because some of the building materials such as metal roof and concrete are blocking the signals from entering the building. It is really inconvenient when you urgently need to make a call at that time. Therefore, these buildings should install the cell phone repeater which helps to improve cell phone signals inside the building.

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The sofa we bought 2 years back is no longer in good condition, the fabric is torn and the colour is faded too. Since Chinese New Year is approaching, we decided to buy a new sofa. Our budget is very constraint, hence we went around those shops that sell discount furniture and finally we got this L-shape 3-seater sofa at only RM550, inclusive of delivery, it’s really a steal.

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Day 4 (8th Jan 09) 11.30am – 2.45pm
After 3 days of early dismiss, today Dillon will be on full session. My maid managed to get him on the van, by force (sigh…) and of course he was screaming and crying, but according to the uncle (I called to ask later in the evening), he only cried for a while and then was ok already.

So it seems smooth today, except that my maid forgotten to wear him PE shirt and pants to school, well I guess she was just too concern on how to get Dillon board the van and forgot about this.

Hope tomorrow will be a better day.

Day 5 (9th Jan 09) 11.30am – 2.45pm
According to my maid, it’s the same pattern today, but Dillon is crying lesser already compare to the previous days, well this is a good sign.

As I thought everything went well and I can sit back and relax, I received a call from the school at 2.50pm, my heart was beating so fast and I was worrying what has happened to Dillon at school…. It was his class teacher who called, telling me that Dillon has wet his pants today, and not only once but 3 times!! Since I only prepare 2 sets of pants and underwear for him and the school has to lend him another pair of school pants, so the teacher was calling to tell me to wash and return that pants to them on Monday.

The teacher said this is very strange, as Dillon is obviously toilet trained and he was fine during the previous days, but only today, when the teacher asked him, he said he doesn’t need to pee and right after that he wet his pants. And when the teacher ask him why, he just say no he didn’t pee (still don’t want to admit!).  So the teacher ask me to talk to him about it, she thought he might be too nervous or scared.

I feel strange too because this never happen when he was at home or went out, he always will go to the toilet to pee, I am really worried, I don’t know what has made him so.

I took the opportunity to ask teacher how he was doing at school. Apparently Dillon is very clingy to her, he wants to follow her everywhere she goes, even to toilet. And in the classroom, he took the chair and sit next to the teacher while at canteen, he also wants the teacher to be sitting next to him. Whenever he didn’t see the teacher, he will cry.

My heart feel sad when I heard this, I think he is stressed, and perhaps scared, that’s why he stick with the teacher for security and comfort. But I know this cannot go on, he needs to be mixing with other kids and be independent. The teacher said she will give him more time to adapt since he is the youngest in class (he just turned 3 last Dec, and I think most of his classmates already 3.5 years old or above).

When I got home, maid told me that Dillon wet his pants 2 times again when he came back from school, I really don’t know how could this happen, plus he was also having bad dreams the recent 2 nights, is he really too stressed or scared? When I asked him, he said he doesn’t want to go to school, he wants to cry….. so sad to hear this…….

Before he went to bed, I ask him again if he still wants to go to school, he said yes, and I ask about his friends and teacher, he can mention some names, well I guess he still like the school then……

I really don’t know what can I do to improve the situation, I will still let him go to school next week and see how it goes, hopefully it turns out to be better.

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Day 2 (6th January 09) 11.30am – 2.00pm
Today I took the van to school together with Dillon. As we are staying the furthest, the van came to pick us up 1st before moving on to other areas. Dillon was quite ok with the van ride although a bit quiet and shy.

When we reached the school, I spent some time with Dillon and while he was playing with the puzzle, I told him that I’m about to leave to work and the van will fetch him home later. All of a sudden, his face turned sour and in a very sad tone, he said he would leave with me. The teacher and I spent about 10 minutes sweet talk to him, even tempted him with candy and toys but he still won’t let me go. So no choice I followed him to the classroom again.

There were other parents around today as well, and some kids are already crying until the face turned red, such a pitiful scene. Then the teacher asked all the parents to leave the room as they need to close the door, so I quickly left the room when Dillon turned to look at elsewhere. The door immediately shuts after me and every kid in the classroom started crying out loud. I can hear Dillon’s crying and screaming and I feel so sad, but I know this is something that I must do sooner or later, just hoping that he will get used to it.

And later it proves that my worries were not necessary, when Dillon came home by van, he was one happy kid and even wave bye bye with uncle and other kids, the uncle even told me that he was chatting with him all the way, I felt so relieved when I got to know this, looks like things are getting on well.

Day 3 (7th January 09) 11.30am – 2.00pm
I left to work in the morning and left Dillon to my maid. Since hubby is not working today also, I’ve told him to hide and watch him board the van from upstairs.

Around 11.00am after I came out from a meeting, hubby called and told me that Dillon refused to go on the van and after they (he and the maid) sweet talk him for almost 10 minutes, it’s still not working, and because hubby thinks it’s such a pity to force him and it could give trouble to the uncle, he decided to let him skip the school today. (ARGH……..this father is not firm at all)

I was so angry when I knew this, I mean this shouldn’t happened. I understand that Dillon might still be reluctant to go on the van himself (yesterday was with me), especially that he was the 1st kid the uncle pick up.

I have told my maid that she should be the only person to send Dillon to the van, and not the father because that doesn’t help at all. And if she fails to sweet talk him again, the last resort would be to just put him in the van, lock the door and ask the uncle to drive off immediately. I’m sure he will cry very badly but I’m also confident that after a while, he will get distracted by the ride and also when the other kids start to get on board, he will be fine. Sometimes I feel like I’m such a cruel mum, I’m sad too, but no choice because at the end of the day, he has to get used to it.

Before he went to bed, I had a conversation with him
Me: Did you go to school today?
D: No la.
Me: Why didn’t go?
D: ………
Me: Mummy has been waiting for you for so long at school do you know? (yes i was lying ) I was so angry you didn’t come.
D: Don’t make mummy angry, mummy not sayang.
Me: Exactly.
D: Teacher give sweets at school.
Me: Yes that’s right, so you going to school tomorrow?
D: Yes.
Me: I ask the uncle to fetch you, you must go ok?
D: Ok.
Me: Don’t cry.
D: No la.
Me: What you do when uncle is driving?
D: Don’t make noise.
Me: Ok so I see you at school? (lying again…..)
D: Ok.

Alright, so I shall see again if the sweet talk works or we have to use our last resort……

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Orientation day (4th Jan 09) 11.30am -1.30pm
Hubby and I went to school with Dillon at 11.30am and everything is fine at the beginning. Dillon likes his school, especially the toy car in the playground (ahem…what else right?). His classroom is locate don the 2nd floor and there are 8 kids in his class, 2 girls and 6 boys at this moment. Dillon is very shy (ahem…) in the class and is always looking for me, so I spent some time in the class and play puzzle together with him. After that I went and waited outside the classroom.

I guess most kids at this age have very short attention period, Dillon just can’t stay in the classroom for more than 5 minutes, and he would come out and wander around, pushing the trolley in and out the classroom, he basically don’t take teacher’s instruction and enjoyed doing his own activity. (sigh)

He didn’t cry on this day, because I was always in his sight, and he did constantly checking if I was around, I really don’t know how it would be like when he eventually gonna be there by himself……

Day 1 (5th Jan 09) 11.30am – 2.00pm
Hubby sent me and Dillon to school today and I have planned to follow the school van home, so that at least Dillon can try to get used to the van ride. When we reached school at 11.00am, Dillon head to the playground straight and I took the chance to leave for breakfast with hubby after I informed the teacher.

When I returned 30 minutes later, I can’t seem to find Dillon anywhere and I know something must be not right and true enough, the class teacher told me that Dillon was looking around for me, he wasn’t crying badly but was very upset that he didn’t see me around, he was still sobbing when he sees me and he immediately took his bag and pull my hand asking me to go bring him home. My heart feel so sad to see him like this, it’s so pitiful but I calm him down by offering him a candy and sweet talk to him. We then enter the classroom together.

It was the same thing today, some kids in his class were still crying badly for their parents, while some remains calm. I noticed that only the boys cry so far, the 2 girls were calm, although they are also 1st year at school, so is it true that girls are more mature and well behaved than the boys???

Dillon didn’t cry in the class, the only thing is that he cannot remain focus on what teacher is talking, he keeps going in and out the classroom looking for his toys to play with and wandering around other classroom and I have to force him to go back in the classroom (teacher said she will close the door tomorrow onwards so hopefully that will constraint him). He is still very shy, he didn’t talk to anybody in the class, when teacher ask him questions, he just smile and look away shyly (I never know that my son is a shy person, lol). Well hopefully he will be better when he gets familiar with the environment and people around.

As for the van ride, he enjoyed it very much, maybe because I was accompanying him. Tomorrow I will still accompany him to the school by van but I have planned to leave him in the school soon after he enter the classroom, and he will take the van home by himself. I am expecting that he will be very upset not to see me around, he might be crying badly and refuse to go on the van whatsoever, but I guess this is a phase that h needs to go through eventually, I have to go back to work on Wednesday and I have to leave him in the good hands, I trust that the teachers and the van driver will be capable to handle him. *fingers crossed*

My conversation with Dillon:
Me: Do you like going to school?
D: Yes, like.
Me: Do you want to go to school again tomorrow?
D: Yes I want, mummy will come with me to school.
Me: No, mummy needs to work.
D: Mummy don’t need to work
Me: Yes, if mummy don’t work, no money to send you to school.
D: Papa goes to work, mummy no need to go.
Me: (speechless…..)

Me: Dillon you want to go to school?
D: Yes.
Me: Uncle will take us to school by van, ok?
D: Ok.
Me: You like the van?
D: Yes, like.
Me: Mummy goes to work and uncle will fetch you to school by van, ok?
D: No, mummy come together.
Me: No mummy have to work, you go with uncle, understand?
D: Understand.
Me: Sure?
D: Sure.
Me: You want to cry?
D: No la.
Me: You good boy?
D: Yes.

Well, I shall see if he really understands what I said……

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